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Debating whether to reach out to my high school best friend after 8 years of silence
So I've got this situation where I can't decide if I should message my old best friend from high school, Jenna. We had a massive fight senior year over something stupid about a guy, and we just never talked again after graduation. Part of me thinks reaching out after 8 years would be weird and maybe she's moved on completely, you know? But the other part of me saw her mom's Facebook post about her getting engaged last month, and I got this huge wave of missing her. I actually tried looking her up on Instagram but chickened out three times now lol. The thing is, I don't even know if she wants to hear from me, and I'm scared of getting ignored or worse, starting drama again. What would you do in this spot? Has anyone here actually reconnected with someone after a big falling out and it went well?
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harperp314d agoMost Upvoted
Man oh man, the engagement post thing really got me. I did almost the exact same thing last year when my old friend from middle school got married and I saw her mom's post about the wedding. I actually did send a message after like 7 years of not talking and it was the weirdest thing because she replied but her answer was so short and polite I felt like I was talking to a stranger. But then a few months later she randomly messaged me about a band we used to love and it was like no time had passed at all. So yeah you never know how it's gonna go, but I say go for it.
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Oh I totally get the "scared of getting ignored" thing because I did the SAME thing with my old friend Maria after 5 years and chickened out like four times before finally just sending a message. It was SUPER awkward at first but we ended up talking for like 3 hours on the phone and now we're good again, not like before but still nice to have her back in my life. Honestly you should just send her a quick "hey saw your engagement post, congrats" and see how she responds, worst case she doesn't answer and you're right back where you started anyway.
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