Still stuck on what my sister said at my dad's birthday dinner last month

We were at Maggiano's in Arlington for his 70th and she pulls me aside to say I'm 'too sensitive' about my job stress. I told her I got passed over for a promotion at the Verizon call center after 3 years of good reviews, and she just shrugged and said maybe I'm not cut out for management. Has anyone else had a family member just totally dismiss what you're going through like that?

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blairstone2mo ago

OMG "maybe I'm not cut out for management" - that's brutal. My aunt pulled the exact same thing on me when I told her I was struggling with my retail supervisor position at Target. She just said "some people aren't leaders, and that's okay" like it was no big deal. It's so frustrating when family acts like they know your career better than you do, especially when you've put in three years of hard work like you did. I wanted to scream because I was literally training new shift leads at the time she said that. The dismissiveness just makes you feel even worse when you're already down about missing a promotion, you know?

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emma_burns962mo ago

Oh wow, that's just awful. I never thought about it this way before, but maybe your sister was actually projecting her own fears onto you. Like, maybe she's worried about her own job situation or feels insecure about her own career, so she puts you down to feel better about herself. It's easier to tear someone else down than deal with your own stuff, you know? Could there be something going on with her that she's not talking about?

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