My neighbor's kid called me out on my food waste last Tuesday

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robert_craig8d agoMost Upvoted

MAN oh man @jessica_dixon you're really getting to the heart of it here. So your boyfriend just stood there watching you cook and then expected to eat your food? That would drive me NUTS. I mean, it's one thing if he's clueless about cooking and genuinely doesn't know how to help, but just watching and then asking for bites after you're done? That's not helping, that's freeloading. So here's what I'm wondering - did he ever actually learn from that moment, or does he still pull the same move weeks later? Because if he's still doing it, that tells you everything about whether he actually cares about the imbalance in effort.

jessica_dixon20d ago

Did he offer to help eat it or just judge you?

faithf7720d ago

Oh man, @jessica_dixon you actually got that a little wrong. He did offer to help eat it but only after I had already made it and laid it all out. Like, he was standing there watching me chop veggies and stuff, not offering a hand. Then as soon as I sat down with my plate he was like "oh that looks good, can I have some?" Like no dude, you had your chance to help make it. It's just one of those little things that bugs me more than it probably should. But yeah he did eat half of it in the end so I guess that counts as helping?

betty_park628d ago

My boyfriend Tom used to do the exact same thing, I talked to him about it and now he knows to ask if I need help before I even start cooking. @jessica_dixon you're right that it's kind of a pattern not just one thing. Now he'll chop an onion or two and it makes a huge difference, he feels more involved and I feel less like a personal chef. It's not about the food really, it's about that moment where you feel like your effort is just expected and not valued. That little change fixed a lot of small arguments for us.