Talked to an old coworker yesterday who said something that stuck with me

I ran into Sarah from my last job at the grocery store and she mentioned how she stopped forcing herself to hang out with people just because they lived close. She said she'd rather have 3 real friends she texts once a month than a dozen people she sees weekly but doesn't actually connect with. It hit different because I've been doing the opposite, saying yes to every invite out of guilt. Has anyone else stopped reaching out to someone and felt way less drained?

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jamiew8313d ago

YES oh my god this hit me so hard. I literally just went through this with like three different people I was trying to keep up with because we were in the same friend group or whatever. It's exhausting feeling like you HAVE to respond or make plans just because someone lives nearby or you've known them forever. I finally stopped texting this one person back as much and honestly I feel like I got my evenings back. It's wild how much mental energy those pointless hangouts take when you're not even having fun.

gibson.seth13d agoTop Commenter

Started setting a weekly limit on plans, best thing I ever did.