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Pro tip: I skipped my best friend's wedding to keep a promise to a different friend and the fallout lasted 8 months
Tbh I had two friends pick the same Saturday last June and I had to choose between Dana's wedding in Austin and being there for Marcus after his mom's funeral in Houston. I picked Marcus because he texted me at 2am saying he didn't want to be alone at the service, and I told Dana straight up why I couldn't come. She sent me a thumbs up and then didn't reply to anything for about 8 months, which I found out later was because her sister told her I "clearly ranked my friends." Marcus and I ended up driving back from Houston and talking for 4 hours about his mom, and that car ride is still one of the best conversations I've had in my 30s. Here is my strong take: adults act like a wedding invite is a loyalty test, but showing up for someone on the worst day of their life is the actual job. The thing I would do differently is call Dana instead of texting, because a 3 minute phone call probably would've saved us both the silent treatment. So my question is this: when two people you love need you on the same day, do you go with the bigger event or the bigger pain?
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