Overheard a coworker say she 'ghosts' friends who get too needy and it made me re-evaluate everything

She was bragging at lunch about how she just stops replying to texts if someone asks for too much emotional support, like it's a normal thing. Made me wonder how many of my friendships have quietly died because someone thought I was being 'too much' without ever telling me. Has anyone else ever realized they were the one being ghosted for something like that?

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schmidt.willow15d ago

People ghost for all kinds of reasons that have nothing to do with being "too much," maybe she just sucks at confrontation and it's not that deep. Half the time someone stops texting me I assume they just got busy or forgot, not that they've carefully judged my emotional needs. Unless you're literally blowing up their phone at 2am about a text from three years ago, it's probably not some big statement about you.

wren21715d ago

@schmidt.willow pretty much nailed it. Most people just have terrible follow through, not a secret exit strategy. I once had a friend vanish mid conversation about pizza toppings and I just figured she found a better pizza deal somewhere else. Now if someone ghosts you after you told them about your childhood pet rock collection, maybe then it's personal.