My best friend told me I was a 'one-upper' and it stung but she was right

Last year my friend Sarah sat me down after a group dinner and said I always had a story that had to be bigger than hers. If she had a rough day at work, I'd jump in with a worse story about my week. She gave me a specific example from 3 months earlier, and I realized I had been doing it for years. So I started actively listening more and waiting before I shared my own stuff. It felt awkward at first but our hangouts got a lot more balanced. Has anyone else had a friend call them out on something that made you see yourself differently?

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oscarmurphy13d ago

Started counting to three before I spoke and it fixed the whole problem for me.

lisa_hill2313d ago

Right? That three-count trick is a lifesaver. I've used it myself and it stops you from blurting out the first thing that comes to mind, especially when you're annoyed, @oscarmurphy.