Just realized that committing to one friend catch-up a month beats trying to see everyone all the time.

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You ever get that weird guilt for not seeing people enough? I feel you and reese_patel on how forcing it monthly actually works better than chasing ghosts. My buddy Tom and I just spent a solid three hours over coffee last week because it was his locked-in slot, and it felt real instead of rushed.

betty_barnes1mo ago

Three years ago my friend Sarah and I put a standing coffee date on the first Sunday. It SOUNDS rigid but it saved the friendship. Now we don't waste energy on the "when" and just enjoy the catch-up. @reese_patel is totally right, that locked-in time means you actually show up present. My calendar has maybe two of these slots a month and it feels way more real than trying to please everyone.

reese_patel1mo ago

Hell yes, this is the only way to do it without burning out. Trying to keep up with everyone all the time just means you end up seeing no one properly. Pick your person for the month, lock it in, and actually follow through. It beats a dozen flaky "we should hang out" texts that go nowhere.

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