Just realized my friend group's annual camping trip in the Adirondacks fell apart because nobody wanted to be the one to plan it.

We all kept saying 'someone should pick dates' in our group chat for 4 months, but it's October now and we never went, so how do you get past that awkwardness of assigning a planner without seeming bossy?

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masontorres2mo ago

Pauljones is totally right about throwing out specific dates. That's the only way anything gets done with my buddies too. We had the same thing happen with a fishing trip last spring, just endless "we should go" texts. Finally I just picked a weekend and said I was going, and suddenly three people could make it. Taking that first step feels bossy, but really you're just getting the ball rolling.

betty_barnes18d ago

Oh man, that fishing trip story is basically me and my buddies every single time we try to plan something... we had a whole year of "let's grab a beer soon" that went nowhere until I just picked a Tuesday night and showed up at the bar. Two of them actually came and we ended up having a great time, but it took me just saying "I'll be there at 7" to make it happen. Now I just throw out a date and if they can't make it, they know to suggest the next one themselves or it's on them.

pauljones2mo ago

Yeah, and next time just throw out three specific dates you can do and ask which works best. Takes the pressure off making the final call.